Have you ever done something that you later regretted? Or long for things you don’t have? You always have been perfectly imperfect and you always will be! Life is a series of lessons. Each lesson gives us a chance to experience happiness and sadness, honesty and sneakiness, kindness and hatred, compassion and cruelty, abundance and scarcity. While going through life’s lessons, you are a perfect human being. Think of your life as a precious gift, unique, with a mind that can calculate 100 trillion thoughts a second. There is no one like you. There never will be.
Your life is priceless.
Know that and cherish the gift of you. Recognize the perfect imperfections and accept the fact that you are on a path of learning. When I was five and first tried to ride my new bicycle, I fell down a lot! Eventually, I climbed back on it and didn’t even realize when my dad let go. Suddenly, I was peddling on my own! I wouldn’t have learned the finesse of balancing on a bike or gained confidence in myself had I not fallen and scraped my knees a few times in the learning process. Life is one long learning process! How often have you bruised your ego in a false belief that you must be perfect? In our Workshop: The Gift of Self, a participant has an opportunity to reflect on their life. When we do the “Life Story” exercise, it’s amazing how much shame and guilt is self imposed. It is sad to see how many people torture themselves by the false expectation that they must be perfect. Or have set unrealistic standards that can never be achieved. And, upon close inspection, many times the standards were set by someone else. Something miraculous occurs in the workshop when a participant suddenly realizes the importance of self acceptance. It’s as though an inner light has been switched on and it illuminates a wonderful glow. It is very noticeable.
As I’ve gotten older, I have learned that I’ll forget where I put my sunglasses or I’ll get in the car and realize I don’t have my cell phone. I recognize that there may be times when I’ll lose my temper, be impatient, or offend someone. I don’t expect my family and friends to be perfect, either. I know that they are just like me, living in a challenging world and doing the best they can with what lessons they have learned thus far. I strive to love them without conditions. To love someone without conditions starts with the ability to love Self unconditionally. We can not give to others what we are not willing to give to ourselves. Expecting perfection from myself or others only robs me of inner peace.
Human beings are perfectly designed.
That doesn’t mean we are designed to be perfect. We have been designed to learn and grow. We have been given a gift, the ability to stand outside of ourselves and see how our thoughts and feelings affect our actions. And, we have been given the gift of choice. When I wake up in the morning, I set out to be the best version of my Self as I can be. At the end of the day, when I review my results, I take notice of what I’ve learned and where change is needed. I appreciate my efforts, not allowing the inner critique to shame, guilt or defeat me. As we reflect on our past behaviors and actions, we can choose to think differently. You are perfectly imperfect. Take a deep breath, let your shoulders drop, say to yourself, in a voice that you would use with someone you deeply care about, “I love you, I appreciate you, and I accept you, just as you are.”