New Year’s Resolutions…ugh!
If you’re like many people, when you think of a New Year, you think of all the things you didn’t get done last year. And the word “Resolutions” gives you an uneasy feeling! Recently, I had a client who didn’t want to actually state her “resolutions.” She was very cautious about saying aloud what she would resolve to do. You, too, may avoid making resolutions for fear of failing to achieve them which could cause you to feel a huge let down at the end of the year. Or, you may be hesitant to share them with others because when you do, you are now accountable for what you’ve just declared. And for some people, it’s as if the unspoken wish(es) would be jinxed if spoken aloud or written down.
Turning Resolutions into Intentions
On the other hand, this act of resolving to do something can be filled with hope, powerful vision, and embedded with expectation. Imagine what the birth of the New Year would bring if we turned this Resolution into Intention. Words have power. In The Four Agreements, it’s not surprising that the first agreement in Don Miguel Ruiz’s list is to be “impeccable with your word.” The simple turn of words can be quite powerful, and, in fact, reclaim what should be a positive feeling for the coming year.
Doing vs. Being
Let’s resolve to choose an Intention rather than a Resolution. An Intention is a positive directional desire grounded in a goal. It artfully recognizes the journey of change and begs the question of how an Intention is going to be supported. An intention becomes an awareness of our “beingness.” By its nature, it is less declarative and is softer than a Resolution. Therein lies its power. An Intention opens the door for individuals to explore a desire, ask deep questions, and ultimately, organically build a support structure to explore and fuel positive change.
“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives – choice, not chance, determines your destiny.” ~ Aristotle
Come next year, the Intention may be the same as the years’ past. However, unlike a Resolution, you will not have failed to achieve your goal. You will instead be in a position to ask how far your journey has brought you. You will be in a place to appreciate not what was wrong with the past year. Instead, you will be in a place to recognize what the journey yielded, and better yet, what lies ahead. Remember, it’s not about the destination – it’s about the journey!